At the moment, I must admit to being uneasy about the fact that I am not where I would like to be, as far as plans are concerned. Some elements of my other career did not exactly go as I had originally thought. All of this somewhat makes me feel down, even though my summer is not going to be worse than the summer I had planned this spring.
I realized it came from some invisible conditioning: from early childhood, we subtly receive the message that planning the way we are going to use our upcoming time must be done. We are being pressured into knowing exactly what kind of career we want right after high school and RRSP advertisements remind us that we must think about our retirement. While not all planning is useless, I wonder if it makes us lose the ability to deal with the unexpected and to embrace the experiences that are put on our way.
Life will go on, no matter what planned or unplanned events happen, and we have no other choice but to take things as they come, even though this is hard to accept.
I must say that your comments leave a window open to get a better picture of who you are. While you seem to be miles ahead of many of us as you do have a plan as well as life goals it’s important to remember that a goal is only good for the time that you made it. Leave yourself flexability to adjust your targets and don’t see the need for adjustments as a setback. There are so may things we cannot control during the course of our lives and a true measure of our success is how we adjust to those changes.. You can prepare for the unexpected but never plan…
You are right that goals are only good for the moment they were set in, but sometimes they’re hard to let go even though they don’t have any purpose anymore.
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